Dear Donald Trump Supporters…

Dear Donald Trump supporters,
Although I am not confined to a Birmingham City Jail, when I happened upon the following Facebook post multiple times by multiple Trump supporters, I decided to write an open letter of my own to you, with the hopes of opening any closed eyes and exposing any hidden hearts to a different narrative, even when there is a chance the narrator doesn’t look like you.

When I came across this post for the third time, I had to pause and wonder if I was having a case of deja vu. And I realized, deja vu it was not. Now, I will be honest with you and say that initially, I felt feelings of irritation and anger, especially after reading some of the comments underneath of this post. But the more I thought about it, the more the anger seeped away and turned into a little sadness. I was saddened at the way some will try to white wash the disturbing things that are happening in this country, because the issues seem too black to see through. I was saddened at what seemed to be the absence of empathy from human to human and the masks that some had in place for so long, were now slowly coming off.  To me, in  an almost poetic way, the lyrics to Alanis Morissettes’ song “Empathy” seemed to be the anthem of Mr. Trumps election campaign:

“There are so many colors that I still try to hide while I paint
And there are so many tunes that I secretly sing as I wait
You come along and invite these parts out of hiding
This invitation is the one that I’ve stopped fighting….”

It seems that Mr. Donald Trump, with all of his brashness and bold, blatant disregard and disrespect for certain cultures and the female gender, along with his lack of self-control, has invited those that were hiding behind masks of humanity, equality and love, to come out of hiding…and to stop fighting their true feelings. And after reading the comments under this supporting post in direct relation to non Trump supporters such as, “the hate was ridiculous,” “no reason for personal attacks,” “we need to talk about the candidates instead of making judgments about the people voting for them,” and a response to those comments that said,  “Truly heartbreaking! We should embrace the differences,” I decided to address the post because  I could no longer be silent in the face of irony.

I know the speech and feelings of non Trump supporters is seen as aggressive, however, speaking as a non Trump supporter that is a BLACK WOMAN in America (which clearly makes me a double jeopardy in Trumps eyes) that has experienced racism first hand, whose husband has experienced racism first hand, whose grandparents LIVED through segregation, to have a candidate that is campaigning to become the President of the UNITED States of America be able to cause such DIVISION, even among his own party, just by his speech, speaks volumes about his misguidance and causes me to do a double take at his supporters. To support a man so out of touch and ignorant of reality that he truly believes that “blacks” are living in  neighborhoods that are “war zones.” And that we “struggle to get by on food stamps.”  And that we see “nothing but failure” around us??? When a candidate makes the following statement addressing African Americans, albeit in front of a mostly white audience, without any statistical data to back him up, “You’re living in your poverty, your schools are no good, you have no jobs, 58 percent of your youth is unemployed —…” Have you considered what that must feel like? For the person that you are supporting because you believe he will do “the best job for this country” to have such a narrow scope of an entire race doesn’t concern you at all??? Not to mention, Mr. Trump says that, “ stop-and-frisk could help in cities like Chicago where crime is rising,” even though a federal judge found that the strategy as used in New York broke the law.  Oh well, maybe you’re just focused on the “issues…”

I also wonder about the supporters that have little girls such as I, that will one day grow up to be women? Does it bother you that the candidate you are backing seemingly has no respect for women in general? There are all types of campaigns today about being strong girls and girls standing up for themselves…But what happens if  heaven forbid, when they become women, they were to be sexually harassed at their place of employment? Do we tell them what Mr. Trump would tell his daughter to do? Not to stay and fight for their rights…but to “move on” or “ find another career or find another company if that was the case.” Oh and that she must be pretty and thin other wise she could be referred to as a “fat pig” ala Rosie O’Donnell. Or that she can grow up and become the President of the United States, as long as she doesn’t look like Carly Fiorona because as Mr. Trump stated in reference to Ms. Fiorona being president, “Look at that face! Would anyone vote for that? Can you imagine that, the face of our next president?” Is this the type of man you want to model the role of the president? A human dichotomy whose DNA carries irony that seems to be pour out of him whenever he speaks. 

And speaking of irony, I cannot help but to find the Facebook post by Donald Trump supporters and the comments that I mentioned that went along with said post, to be ironic. In the post you state to non Trump supporters, “If your dislike of a candidate (Trump) causes you to speak in a condescending and downright hateful way to their (Trump) supporters, many of whom you call “friends”, then maybe you should reevaluate your approach.” However, Mr. Trump, who you support and believe will “Make America great again” has seemed to build his entire campaign with hateful, condescending, racist diatribe, with personal attacks as his platform. Lest we forget how  Mr. Trump spoke of Ben Carson and compared his “pathological temper” to the condition of a child molester. Or when he said “when Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. And some, I assume, are good people.” And how about when asked a press conference about the Black Lives Matter movement and the threat of possible violence at his rally, he said among other things, “…If black lives don’t matter, then go back to Africa. We’ll see how much they matter there.” This candidate whom you support as the best person for the job, displays the same behavior as the people you think should “re-evaluate” their approach. And yet you are willing to have him hold the highest office in the land and represent the United States of America.

I ask you to think back to the very first person who you were counting on and they disappointed you. Think back to the first time your heart was broken. How it felt like your heart was physically being broken, piece by piece. The pain so sharp and deep that it runs down into your epidermis, the deepest part of your skin and wraps itself around your joints as it makes it’s way up to grab a hold of your heart while simultaneously bumping into your lungs as it squeezes the larynx in a death grip, effectively cutting off the air supply to your vocal words so that you can’t speak. And your voice has been lost. Experiencing racism and prejudice for the first time and every time after, feels just like this… times 10. And it affects and effects a person to the core and their view of the world is forever changedAnd it gets harder and harder to believe in the land of the free and the home of the brave. And yet, we have to march on.
My husband and I have three children, one of which is 19 years old and is currently serving in the United States Air Force and this will be the first election she votes in. And someday, our two youngest will have to cast a ballot. We strive to teach our children about the inclusion of all man kind and not division… and yet the potential leader of the free world, the man who is asking African Americans like my family, to vote for him, is exclusionary in thinking. So what do we do? What do you propose we tell our children?

In your post you say that after this election, you will just “move on, as you have always done.” And that we are “luckier than most citizens of the world.” So I ask you, are “YOU” apart of the “WE” that prays in earnest everyday asking GOD to protect your husband and son? To keep them alive and to bring them back home safely to you?  To remove any target that is on their back because it seems as if it is open season on the men and boys of your ethnicity and they seem to be hunted like animals? Because I do. And if you don’t, please understand that I am initially going to feel a certain something when I see the very people that engage with me and laugh with me and talk with me, supporting a candidate that has time and time again displayed without hesitation, his intolerance of other cultures and the female gender.

And while you will seamlessly move on with your life no matter the outcome of the election, it will not be so easy for others to just move on. Donald Trump has opened a political Pandora’s box that has long held secrets of discontent, racism and sexism. Only now it has been released and allowed to spill into many different communities and to remain, instead of coming together to clean it up.

I hope you receive this letter with the heart in which I have sent it. A heart that is filled with love for all people and beats with faith and hope for a better future…a hope that one day, all of mankind will stand together united and knit by love…giving hope  to generations to come that America truly is the ties that bind…


62 thoughts on “Dear Donald Trump Supporters…

  1. Joanne says:

    Very insightful, thank you for giving a voice to our community that is not riddled with the hate that seems like it will forever plague us.

  2. Tammey says:

    Great blog. This political mess makes me want to ask, “Will the real America please stand up?”. I heard a comment on CNN today from Newt Gingrich. He said Trump keeps saying, “This is who I am”, but he needs to stop saying that and needs to change his tune because who he (Trump) is is not presidential. And Newt Gingrich is a friend of Trump.

  3. womanpulse says:

    So good and I truly despise this campaign it boggles the mind that he has even gained this much support. It truly scares me what will happen to this country if he gets elected. Let me say that people are so blind because I can see what is coming with all that is happening and I really can’t fathom that people don’t get that the black lives matter movement is for everyone and against govt sanctioned police brutality that has soared to unbelievable heights and what is going to happen as a result will be devastating. I am a white woman married to a black man and I have a foot in both worlds and always have as my step mother is black also. But even more important I am a human with compassion and a full awareness and acknowledgement of what has been done and the suffering of others and it saddens me beyond belief that everyone doesn’t.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Heidi!!! First, thank you so much!! And thank you for reading!! And your comment… wow! Wow! Wow! You are so right! I wonder where is the compassion for other humans?? What is happening that we are able to overlook someone’s cruel treatment of other humans…. where is the human decency. Sometimes people don’t get it…until it happens to someone they are close to…
      And have yin written a post about being in both words?!?! I would love to read it and share it!😁

  4. Julie Syl Kalungi says:

    Which one is the real America and can they wake up already?

    Yet as you say Taria, It seems people’s true colors have been exposed and I would hate t live in a Trump neighbourhood as a black woman myself! It will be a ad day for America and the World if America votes Trump as president. Thats all Ia m gonna say!

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Julie! Thank you so much for reading! I just don’t get how people can disregard the treatment of other humans, especially when there is no question about how they feel because they make it known…every chance they get!
      I am so thankful for my trust in GOD….because ultimately whichever this election goes…. his word says he has the government on his shoulders…

  5. Stephanie says:

    This is pure brilliance. I couldn’t help but cringe at the debate the other day. As an American living overseas, I am so saddened by what is going on in America right now. How is this happening? And how could anyone stand behind the awful things Trump said during the debate? He pretty blatantly stated he was for regulations that were unconstitutional. It honestly breaks my heart, especially when I see family members showing support for Trump because “he’s not a corrupt politician” or “he’s different and what our country need”. NO America does not need a racist, xenophobic, sexist, egocentric monster as president.

  6. Kirstie Ganobsik says:

    I love that you wrote this – the support of Trump reminds me of something I heard in Al-anon: “Denial is the strongest emotion next to love.” I think some people to go for easy solution that lacks self-analysis so they don’t have to face their own issues. Then this personal choice to not grow – in love, compassion, and understanding – spills out into the rest of the world. It’s surreal to watch denial in action, but my personal experience is that holding a space of love does pay off – and this love spills out into the rest of the world with much more force than denial ever can.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Kirstie! Thank you for reading! I love that quote…”Denial is the strongest emotion next to love.” That is really powerful! And I agree about LOVE spilling out! And I will make sure to remind myself to hold a space of love! Thank you for that!

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi CJ! Thank you so much for reading! Yes!!! And the fact that he got so far! And quite honestly I look at some of the neighborhoods who proudly display his signs and I am thinking…He cares nothing about you…..

  7. Shirley says:

    Great blog. I love visiting your blog. I always found something different and informative. This post is very unique which led us to think out of box. Something different. Keep Posting!

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Wow Shirley! Thank you, thank you, thank you for the encouragement! GOD gave me an idea for a post a little over a week ago and I was like, “I haven’t seen that particular subject matter written that way…” But you just confirmed for me that I need to and better write it! Sometimes I try to pull it back, but I just can’t! 😂 Thank You so much for reading!

  8. Kimberly C. says:

    I hear what you’re saying. I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I’m still flabbergasted that he is actually running for President. I keep saying I feel bad for his wife, but we only see what is shown to us.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Kimberly ! Thank you for reading! Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I am grateful for that, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to write this open letter. That is so true. We only see what he displays to us. What he openly shows us. And I subscribe to Maya Angelou’s theory…”When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Ana! Thank you for reading. And that we do have freedom of speech, which what I exercised when I wrote this post. I have my reasons as well😉 And I would hope people were not voting with condemnation.

  9. Naya @ Lactivist in Louboutins says:

    I am flabbergasted that he has made it this far. I agree with you, that his words have given some people an excuse to be their true hateful selves. All of this makes me nervous for the kind of world we will have in 4 years. Even if he doesn’t win, he has opened a Pandora’s Box of hatred. Your post is very well written and I sincerely appreciate your perspective.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Thank you so much Naya!!! And thank you for reading! Yes… it is horrible the way compassion and LOVE seem to take a blatant back seat…. We just need to love…. truly love… all differences….

  10. Jolina says:

    I’m not American but we do follow US Election news. It’s quite interesting to say the least. We sometimes just cannot believe what’s being said (we watched the debate!). We do hope the right person wins.

  11. deesreview says:

    WOW I love your post and feel the same. At 1st I thought it was a joke that he was running, but then not surprise at the things that happen in this world. I was sadden to see some of the people on my FaceBook timeline that is following him and then I said to myself WOW I see your true feelings and thoughts.

  12. Dominique Garcia says:

    Preach girl! I try to stay away from political controversy because I truly can not believe the 2 that are left running for president. I feel neither is equipped. I just pray God helps us. The world is so ugly.

  13. Subhadrika Sen says:

    I am not very keen on politics but The recent american Election campaigns have garnered a lot many eyes towards it. Well both have their pros and cons and I hope whoever wins truly works for the nation.

  14. sensubhadrika says:

    Well i try to stay away from politics but the recent American Elections is garnering a lot of eyeballs from all over the world. Well, both of the candidates have their own pros and cons ; so hope the best person is elected.

  15. A Mother of All Trades says:

    Wow Taria! This is the first time I have visited your blog and your writing is so captivating. I can really feel your raw emotion in this post. This world is turning into such an ugly place, and it’s no longer up to the next president to save us. It is up to us to save us. We all need to be as outraged as you at the racist remarks, and terrible things he says about woman. We need to be outraged enough to stand up and speak up, and not let monsters like Trump get away with saying things as he does. We need to be the change here, because it is quite clear either candidate is not going to make our situation any better.

    Really great post! I am sending you hugs xo

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi A Mother of All Trades! Thank You so much and thank you for reading!!! I can only write from a real place…which sometimes makes it hard to write. And I agree! We all need to be outraged together and stand up and speak up!

  16. Rae says:

    What’s been a real eye opener for me is just how cruel politics can make people, regardless of who they’re supporting. Here we are, 33 days out and I am no closer to supporting either one of the top two than I was at the start of summer and that worries me. The issues most important to me aren’t being talked about and I don’t have confidence in either one of them to tackle them… kind of makes me feel like my vote is worthless. 🙁

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Rae! Thank you so much and thank you for reading! I must say this comment, you should turn this into a post! It echoes a lot of what people are thinking…. But you have to know your voice and vote are counted and needed!

      • Rae says:

        Politics is something I said I would never talk about on the blog, mostly because I don’t believe anyone should be attacked for their political views if they don’t match up with your own.

        I’ll tell you what though, it’s quite a challenge to look beyond what both candidates have said and done and see what they have buried on their websites, which I think tends to be the important issues with the most chance for impact.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi Anamika! Thank you so much for reading! I think Social Media is different for everyone. For me, it reflects my life and what is going on in my life. And what is going on in my life, this election, will affect the rest of my life… so I have decided to stand for what I believe in at all times on all platforms that I am apart of.

  17. MomJonz says:

    I am saddened by the action of Trump and many of his supporters. The hatred that seems to come out of his mouth is shocking to me. Each day I ask my husband if the news reports are real each day. We have daughters that ask us why a man running for President says the things he does about women and other nationalities. I keep saying it’s all a joke, but I know it’s not.

    • Taria Shondell says:

      Hi MomJonz! Thank you so much for reading! And that is what I keep in the forefront of my mind…I have daughters who need to know that behavior is not acceptable and a son who needs to remember that behavior is not acceptable.

  18. Celeste Sundragonlady says:

    I totally agree with you. So many people have dug their heels into the ground or their candidate and their beliefs. The sad part is that those same people who say they are not racist or prejudice have behaved contrary to that. I just do what I do. Vote for whom I choose and worship wherever I please. I hope everyone will do the same without worrying about being accepted by another ;misguided’ soul. Great post and thanks a ton for sharing.

  19. mariramos53 says:

    I love love love how you display your thoughts!!! If you want to speaking on it more, I’m using to have fact based conversations on topics spanning from politics to culture etc etc, I think you’d really enjoy it!

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